Friday, 18 July 2014

Passing from Virginity. An Open Letter to Charly Lester of the Huffington Post.

 Dear Ms. Lester,

Thank you for helping to break the silence surrounding male rape.

I was raped by my first sexual partner when I was 17. I had snuck into her parents house with her late one night. We filled about an hour with the sort of pseudo-sex that precedes non-virginhood before she asked me to have sex with her. I refused: partially for fear of waking her parents, and partially for my desire for my first instance of 'real sex' to happen in a safer environment. She protested, I refused again, and she answered by threatening to wake her parents, who I had felt scared around fully dressed, to say nothing of how I would have felt had they come to investigate and found me struggling to don my underwear. She won. She assured me that I didn't have anything to worry about, and that she'd do the work - as though that would help me relax. Ultimately, she mounted me and I passed from virginhood.

I judged it worth writing you about this event, as a major part of breaking the silence surrounding male rape involves engendering the acceptance, but not the tolerance, of instances of the heterosexual-rape of boys. I hope you will someday write an article that promotes awareness of such events.

Thank you for helping to obliterate this taboo.


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